Stress when moving is ‘the very devil’ for most of us. It is hard to believe, but people perceive moving almost as stressful as losing a loved one, going through a divorce, and losing their job. But, is stress when moving the formidable enemy? No, we know it is not! And we know it can be overwhelmed when tackled intelligently. But how?
Well, understanding the problem is the key to its solution. Below are three underlying factors that lead to stress when moving:
Change: A Threat to the Status Quo
Stress when moving is very much related to a change in the status quo. Generally speaking, we are so inclined to preserve the status quo about anything in our life. We feel attached to our friends and loved ones, places, jobs, and belongings. The disruption of these affective attachments feels like the end of the World.
So, when change knocks at our door, like a major move, we resist! Our coping mechanisms go on full alert. We feel a massive space in ourselves. A black hole of the unknown that is absorbing all the good and injecting anxiety, worry, stress, and fear into our capillaries in return.
No change is immune to stress, and so does moving, which sometimes brings significant changes to our lives. While we welcome incremental changes, we tend to reject radical ones. Such as moving to a new home in another state or changing your job. Tackling stress when moving begins with understanding the interplay between the stimulator (change brought by moving) and our coping mechanism.
Finance of moving
Money can be a source of stress when moving to a new house or apartment. Minor or major, all moves involve a budget. The bigger your move, the more money you need. Think that you are moving to another state. You will need to hire a moving company (We would love to help you as lukesapartemntsmoving). You will need an extra budget for additional services such as more movers, storage, packing, cleaning, transportation, baby sitter for kids, pet sitter for pets, etc. If you need your piano relocated, you will have to pay more because pianos require special treatment. When it comes to money, more or less, everybody lives stress when moving.
Moving is a time-consuming task whether you carry out a local, interstate or international move. It demands considerable time when you actually lack it. For example, you have to look after your children and your pet. You have to ponder upon your children’s new schools. You must take time off to arrange your new home. Seeing your real estate agent, paying a visit to your new home all requires some spare time. Then, you start to rush between work and home. For a smooth move, you have to allocate a good deal of time for planning, packing, paperwork, and organization. As the day of moving comes close, the initial pressure you felt turns into being intense stress of moving.
The stress and anxiety of moving may manifest itself in the following forms:
Emotionally, you may experience difficulty in relaxing, feel worthless, and/or overwhelmed, and even begin to avoid friends and people. The physical symptoms of stress when moving may appear in the forms of headache and pain, low energy, sleeplessness, shaking, being vulnerable to diseases, and chest tightness. Regarding behaviors, the stress of moving may put you off undertaking your responsibilities and fulfilling duties, alter your eating habits, e.g. undereating or loading, and increase your alcohol consumption.
Most of us moved to another place or home at least once in a lifetime. And, we tackled all the brainwork and labour of planning, organizing, budgeting, packing, carrying, decluttering, cleaning, so on and so forth. The topper, we had to work at the same time. In the end, we survived! Here how all we did it.
See the Glass as Half Full
Do not focus on the negativities of moving. Trust in yourself! Look back on what you have experienced so far in your life. How many times were you overwhelmed by the things that made you feel anxious? You would see that you had survived most of them.
See! You have a lot of reasons to think positively. Developing a positive mentality is an essential step to managing stress when moving. Be close to your friends and loved ones during the process. Do not go introvert. Accept their offers for help for not only giving a hand to moving things. But also for sharing your feelings of anxiety, worry, and stress. Keep in mind that shared sorrow is half sorrow.
Go out despite your inner voice strongly shouts out not to do so. Have a drink in your favorite coffee shop or bar, and talk to friends. Just wander around and let your worries go.
If you are experiencing insomnia, try to sleep while listening to your favourite music. It helps! You can also listen to professional psychologists' recordings such as ‘Anxiety Breakthrough’ by Rachael Eccles. You will feel relaxed, more positive, and much more in control.
Plan In Advance and Work with a Checklist
Moving could and should not be unplanned. In order not to feel the pressure of stress when moving, please do have a plan! Create a timeline showing the to-do list before, during, and after your move. This will make your move a down-to-earth project that can be managed. As you put a checkmark on each item fulfilled, you will feel more comfortable, more confident. The checklist should incorporate items including but not limited to:
Making a list of expenses that is showing the amounts to be spent item by item.
Hiring a moving company in advance for your moving day because they could be swamped, particularly in the moving season.
Arranging packing and wrapping material, such as old newspapers and cupboard boxes from groceries for free. Obtaining free material will relieve your moving budget, which will then have a positive effect on your stress when moving.
Packing your belongings starting weeks, and maybe months, before the moving day. Leaving packing to the last days may blow the whole thing.
Getting rid of the belongings that are of no use to you anymore. Sell off or donate your old furniture, flatware, or any other unneeded goods that you will not need in your new place.
Organizing your travels if you will need accommodation before you move to your new home.
Obtaining the duplicates of your health documents from your family practitioner.
Arranging new schools for your children. Dealing with your kids’ transfer to these schools.
Arranging a pet sitter or a facility to look after your pet on moving day.
Ask for some days off from work for the moving day. Think about how many days you will need to finish your moving. And ask for time off from your manager or boss.
Manage to Say Farewell
"To say goodbye is to die a little", writes Raymond Chandler in his The Long Goodbye.
Yet, every end is a new beginning. It would be best if you could manage to say goodbye to your home, people and places you liked most. A timely farewell will help you to keep going and make a new start in your life. A timely goodbye will then help you overcome stress as earlier as possible when moving. Think of saying goodbye through an event, such as a dinner, at home or a favorite restaurant.
In your new place, create environments that resemble your old home and location. Such an action will help you build emotional bonds with your environment. Such attachments will put you in a good mood.
Beware that the opposite may also be true. In the subconscious people sometimes relate their problems and negativities with places. Such a situation is only totally solved when those people change location. I know a friend who was having a terrible stomachache day and night due to stress. And all his complaints vanished away in one day when he found another job and moved to another city.
As Albert Einstein put it long ago, "Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving."
So, say goodbye to the old and welcome the new!
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